BODY IMAGE is very important to self-esteem. We look for flaws, we compare ourselves to attractive, air-brushed celebrities and that is a battle you can’t win.
“Honey, do you think she is more attractive than me?”
“I, uh, well, I guess, it depends.”
A better idea is: don’t ask, don’t tell. Or maybe, don’t seek perfection but TRY to be as healthy as possible. On the one hand, it’s damaging to drive yourself crazy over perceived or exaggerated physical imperfections. On the other hand, it’s also damaging to go the route of complete acceptance, like the Fat Acceptance Movement. You’re beautiful the way you are, except if you weigh 660 pounds and they have to remove a wall to get you out of the bedroom, not so much. Accepting the way you are at the moment, does not mean you can’t strive in a realistic way, to improve.
I think the philosophy of Frank Zappa can be applied to this issue of body image and self-esteem. Zappa asked the haunting question: “What’s the Ugliest Part of your Body?” And he has an unexpected answer. I made the video below with my version of the Zappa song.